Despite practically every movie or show ever showing women having quick n\' easy orgasms after a couple minutes of penetration, that is some way unrealistic BS for most of us. If it\'s difficult or bloody well impossible to have an orgasm with vaginal penetration alone —congratulations!—you are completely normal! Less than 20 per cent of us can have an orgasm that way.

Luckily, there are lots of ways to up your odds of actually having an orgasm during sex (and not later, secretly in the bathroom. Yeah, that\'s right, been there.) But none of the ways involve more pounding, longer pounding, jackhammer pounding, etc.. no mas with the poundery. We need time, we need the right kind of stimulation (how you doin\', miss clit) and we need to bring in some targeted assistance like hands, optimal angles and/or super helpful toys.

Finding a way to make it happen for you with a partner is huge, in a giant life skills kind of way. When we pretend that ye olde in-and-out is putting us over the edge in seconds, we don\'t get the kind of stimulation that\'s going to do it for us, we miss the opportunity to teach our partners what we actually like and we rob ourselves of the brave, scary, amazing, intense experience of truly surrendering to a very real orgasm in front of another person.

c.a.t. woman

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Erotic Instructions

If you\'re determined to try and make it happen with penetration, try the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) for maximum clitoral stimulation. Your partner lies on top, sliding up further toward your head and instead of thrusting, you slide and rub against each other. If they have a penis/strap-on, insert just the tip so you can slide against their shaft and pubic bone. (If you\'re going vulva-to-vulva, you\'re GTG.)

Why You\'ll Love It

The added friction of aligning, coitally, means more clitoral stimulation for you aka upping your odds of orgasm to the max.

rock and roll

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Erotic Instructions

1. Lie on your back with knees bent and spread and rock your hips up, contracting PCs. Rock down, release PCs. 2. Add clitoral stimulation with a strong vibe. 3. Add penis/strap-on/dildo penetration.

Why You\'ll Love It

The idea behind Betty Dodson\'s Rock and Roll orgasm technique is to train your body to orgasm with a combination of clitoral stimulation, pelvic rocking, PC contractions and vaginal penetration. That\'s a lot going on so learn it solo then move on (if you want) to penetration with a partner.

power dog

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Erotic Instructions:

Super deep penetration plus strong-ass clit stim? Yes, please. Doggie gives you lots of room for wielding whatever toy you want, no matter how big. Want to break out the giant wand vibe? Do. It. The dual stimulation is amaaaaaazing.

Why You\'ll Love It

The added power of a wand vibe means you can do the least possible and still have the best odds of an orgasm. All the space underneath you during doggie gives you tons of space for normally unwieldy toys.

the iron butterfly

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Erotic Instructions

Squat over your partner and face them with your knees spread wide. With your feet planted on the floor, roll and thrust your hips. You can switch between pressing your knees tightly together for a tighter-feeling fit, then opening wide so your partner can rub your clit.

Why You’ll Love It

The stance feels super primal and powerful, plus you’ll get dual inner and outer stimulation at your own damn pace. Have your partner try lubing up two fingers and sliding them along each side of your clit with each thrust.

the magic finger

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Erotic Instructions

Lie back on a bed with your knees up by your chest and your hips at the edge of the bed. Your partner sits (they need to be comfortable ’cause they’re gonna be there awhile), gently massaging lube around your vulva. One hand is for rubbing circles around your clitoris and the other is for curling a finger inside your vagina, rubbing and tapping on the upper wall about an inch or so in.

Why You’ll Love It

It’s the most direct way to simultaneous clitoral and internal stimulation. And even if you tend to be a clit-focused kind of person, the internal stim will enhance it and can help you have an extra-strong, deeper-feeling orgasm.

the tabletop

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Erotic Instructions

Put that yoga class downward-facing dog to good use! Get down on all fours with your partner kneeling behind you and have them plunge inside you, grabbing your butt for balance. This tight, firm angle (plus some rubbing or vibrator use on your clit) could open up a whole new orgasmic world.

Why You’ll Love It

Sure, this isn’t the easiest lazy-Sunday-sex pose, but that internal stim is HOT. Also, there’s something very primal about doing the deed from behind that brings out the animal in even the most mild-mannered partner.

the edging edge

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Erotic Instructions

Lie on your back by the edge of a pool or dock so your butt’s just hanging over the edge above the water. Have your partner stand in the water, facing you, then lift your legs and rest them on their shoulders as they either go down on or enter you. (Why not both, in that order?) You can hold on to the edge of the pool or dock for support.

Why You’ll Love It

Your partner has a full frontal view. So up the optic ante (and channel your inner sex goddess) by caressing your breasts and tummy, which will give them even more eye candy. A bonus: This is perfect for vacation poolside sex (granted that said pool is private).

the thigh master

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Erotic Instructions

If you’re bored with the standard cowgirl pose, this position is a fun, frisky way to mix things up. Your partner lies on their back, one leg outstretched and the other bent, knee pointing upward. You straddle their body sideways with your back turned slightly to their face, and use their knee for support and balance as you rock back and forth and up and down.

Why You’ll Love It

This torrid two-in-one move is all about your ecstasy. The steady rocking motion and thrusting create a pleasure buildup that primes you for the Big O (and having that knee support means you can go faster and deeper than normal). Plus, if you’re feeling generous, you can throw in a lil\' thigh massage for your partner.

the sensual spoon

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Erotic Instructions

Every couple knows how to assume the spoon: Lie on your side with your partner behind you. Keep both of your torsos in this doze pose and lift your top leg. Have them shift their lower body into a half-kneeling position, entering you from behind.

Why You’ll Love It

This passion pose gives you the best of both worlds! The half-doggy-style, half-spooning hybrid combines the cosy intimacy of lying side by side with simultaneous rubbing and penetration. Nothing beats having them hold you tight while taking you higher. Give them a gentle reminder that both their hands are free, guiding them to caress your curves and stimulate your clitoris. Up their ante by reaching behind and fondling them as they thrust.

the triple threat

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Erotic Instructions

If you love The Sensual Spoon but want some anal play, try this. Lie on your side, using a rabbit-style vibrator for clitoral and internal stimulation. Your partner assumes the big-spoon position behind you to enter via door number two, so to speak. As usual with all things anal: Use a fuck ton of lube, go incredibly slow, and don’t go any further than feels comfortable.

Why You’ll Love It

Dual stimulation is already amazing, but adding anal penetration to the mix can be a total game-changer.

the erotic end

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