For those you who can't orgasm from penetrative sex alone—and research shows only 18 percent of women can—adding a vibrator can make the act a little more…satisfying. But even if you regularly visit O-town with your partner, your favorite toy could make it even more magical, stress-relieving, and pleasurable. (FYI, those are just some of the benefits of having an orgasm.)

But how do you go about pulling it off? "I recommend exploring and getting to know each your body and your partner's body without a toy first," says Resa Weinstein, a sex, relationship, and confidence coach. Then, approach your desire to add a toy by telling your partner that you think it would be *flame emoji* to try something new and use a vibrator together.

"When you've agreed that you're both ready to bring them in, it may offer a new type pleasure and different orgasm you didn't know were possible," says Weinstein. Emphasis on both, here. In partnered sex, "It's critical that everyone is on the same page with the toys being introduced to the encounter," says. (#Sorrynotsorry, but whipping it out is never an option).

Once you've established that a vibrator is going to be used (cheers for asking for what you want!!), here are nine sex positions to use with a vibrator and bae.

Benchwarmer

Benchwarmer

For this twist on the side saddle position, the giver sits on the edge of the bench, and the receiver positions their body so they're sitting over the giver's penis or object.

Assisted_Missionary

Assisted Missionary

Pool floats aren't just trendy Instagram props, they can make for great sex props for assisted missionary, too. Place the pool float under the receiver's butt to change the angle of penetration slightly. Definitely keep this move out of water, because Lilla says sex in water can be problematic. "Sex in a pool or hot tub sounds erotic, but is typically difficult for multiple reasons, including the fact that it washes away lubrication and makes it nearly impossible to use a condom," she says.

Lawn_Mower

Lawn Mower

For this move, the receiver places their hands on the ground, so that their body is bent over almost like the downward dog yoga position. The giver stands behind, with their hands on the receiver’s hips, to control the depth and speed of penetration. Try this on a grassy lawn, so that the receiver’s hands have something soft to rest on.

Reverse_Cowgirl

Reverse Cowgirl

Sex on the beach is an obvious cliché, but Lilla says sand can actually make things more comfortable, because it provides a nice cushion, and will conform to your body. "But just make sure you bring a towel or blanket, or the sand will be everywhere," she says. If reverse cowgirl usually hurts the receiver's knees, try it on sand, and it might be a little more comfortable.

Tree_Pose

Tree Pose

A tree is a natural prop for outdoor sex, because it's sturdy and upright, which makes it ideal for standing sex positions, Lilla says. One partner (the receiver) leans the front of their body against a tree, and then the other partner (the giver) stands behind them and penetrates them from behind. If you feel like getting acrobatic, you could also try this one facing your partner. In that case, the receiver would have their back to the tree with their legs wrapped around their partner's body, and then the giver would hold them up, Lilla says.

Fire_Hydrant

Fire Hydrant

Have one partner sit on the ground (with a blanket or towel under their butt) and perform oral sex while the other partner stands.

Picnic_Spread

Picnic Spread

Patio furniture can be expensive, so you might as well take advantage of it. If you have an outdoor table, have the receiver sit on the high part of the table with their feet on the bench, facing the giver. In this position, the receiver might want to wrap their legs around the giver to increase friction. Lilla suggests keeping a blanket underneath your seat to keep it comfortable (and possibly to avoid splinters).

Pitch_A_Tent

Pitch A Tent

Tents offer privacy, Lilla says. But if you're camping in a shared campground, you might want to be a little more discreet, and try a classic Kama Sutra sex position called Expanding. For this one, the receiver lies on their side with the giver behind them (kind of like they're spooning), and then the receiver lifts their top leg slightly to allow the giver to penetrate deeply.

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